Easing into Postpartum Sex
for completing the marathon of
delivery. What lies ahead is a tough task of parenting, which no doubt is
stressful enough and when you both work its even harder. You have to make time
for your marriage/sex life.
Most women don't feel very keen on sex for at least a few weeks
childbirth and the main reason for this is simply exhaustion. If the
delivery was long or difficult, the woman may also feel anxious about getting
Generally, women start getting their desire back within a
couple of months of having a baby. If your libido doesn't return, then you
should seek help from a doctor. Female medics at family planning clinics are
particularly good at helping to deal with this problem because they see it all
Check out these tips for assistance,
Kegel Exercise- According to the San Francisco Institute for
Advanced Study of Human Sexuality, a well-toned pubococcygeus muscle
improves sexual control and plays a key part in achieving orgasm. Practicing
Kegel exercises help strengthen and tone pelvic floor muscles. Stronger
PC muscles improve
sexual satisfaction, help prevent urinary leaking and speed up healing
after birth. Try contracting the PC muscles by pretending you're a vacuum
cleaner and you're sucking a marble into your vagina or that you're trying
to stop peeing mid-stream. Gradually work up to 20 times per session. Try to
do Kegels three times a day, several times a week. You'll begin noticing
changes in less than a month.
like an old-timer- Bring back the initial lust you felt by revisiting the
spots you went to in the beginning of your relationship. At least try to bring
back that level of creativity when you go out. Pay full attention to your mate.
If you don't have time for a full-blown lovemaking session, a well-placed caress
or kiss can turn up the flame pretty quickly. Re introduce sex into your life by
going on a date.
Drop the guilt of feeling sexy- Get out of your mommy rut with a
new, easy beauty routine that will have you feeling good after pregnancy in
no time. Take small steps towards getting your sex desires back and ignited
after baby, and your after-baby sex life will follow suit. Buy yourself a
night wear, feeding bra or stocking, put them on while you are feeling
Get Intimate: Remember, you don't have to actually have sex to be
intimate. Express your love (and desire) in other ways — hold hands, give
him a back rub, cuddle on the couch, or kiss him like he's leaving for a
week when he least expects it. And when you do make a stab at the actual
act, lots of foreplay and lubrication will definitely help things go more
Try new location - Get busy
anywhere but your bed, the dining room, table or back seat of a car
to add a spark, try to ditch the bedroom: A new mom might get tired
initially that she might fall asleep the minute she hits the bed. Look out
for ways to reconnect.
Look into the cause why you avoid sex- There can be factors like
pain during sex, being watched are some reasons why women seem to avoid
sex. Experiment and find a position that puts less pressure on any stitches
and gives you control over the depth of penetration (this is one time when
deeper will definitely not be better).
your Sleep Pattern- A 2002 poll conducted by the National Sleep Foundation
found that while there isn't a direct relationship between sweet dreams and sex,
is affected by the amount of
get. People who feel tired, stressed, sad or angry -- all common when we don't
get about seven to eight hours of sleep a night -- are unlikely to be in the
mood for sex. Sleep benefits sex and, as it turns out, sex benefits sleep. When
orgasm, your body releases oxytocin, also known as the love hormone, and
oxytocin promotes sleep -- which you'll need for having more sex.
Agree to some nice cuddling and smooching and (as long as the
baby doesn’t interrupt) you might find those familiar frisky feelings
beginning to bubble to the surface. Women feel that there body is not that
attractive (Madonna like )and begin to avoid sex. At this time the husband
can make the woman feel beautiful.
Invest in a great water-based lube and get on with your (sex) life.
Your hormones eventually will settle down and everything will return to
normal. Choosing the right lubricant comes down to personal preference, and
if you haven't considered a lubricant before, know that they come in a
variety of flavors and styles (including warming lubes that boost arousal).
For best results, lube early and lube often.
Sex life can be reignited by taking care of yourself by following a healthy
diet, adequate sleep and
exercise. Timing is everything, to have fun both the partners need to make
Dated 29 Novembers 2011