HOUSTON, Texas (CNN) - Rob Sandler comforted his infant son as he lifted
him out of the crib, cooing in his ear while he walked to the living room.
If his baby had needed to be soothed three months ago, Sandler, 36, of Houston,
Texas, might have handed the baby off to his wife and then found an excuse to
leave the house.
"Honestly, it felt like when I was at home, the walls became very, very close
in. I wouldn't say claustrophobic, but very cabin feverish," Sandler said.
It turned out that Sandler, a medical device salesman, had more than cabin
fever. He recently got an official diagnosis: He has a male version of
postpartum depression.
"This comes as quite a shock to men who are expecting this wonderful time of
baby bliss with the new baby and a time of bonding," said Will Courtenay, a San
Francisco, California-based psychotherapist and founder of Saddaddy.com, who is
a leading expert in the United States on paternal postnatal depression.
"Each day in the U.S., 1,000 new dads become depressed, and according to some
studies that number is as high as 3,000. That's as many as one in four news dads
who become depressed."
"We hear this from a lot of men," Courtenay said. "They can't stand to be around
their baby...they can't stand the smell or the sound of their child screaming."
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Courtenay said a number of factors may cause the depressed feelings. "It's
likely that sleep deprivation plays a major role," he said.
"Hormones may also play a role." According to Courtenay, "It's a double whammy.
Not only do our testosterone levels go down, but our estrogen levels go up and
these female hormones coursing through our body can really wreak havoc on a
man's functioning." Although experts aren't exactly sure, they theorize that
these fluctuations may be similar to "sympathy pains" that individuals feel when
someone they're close to is hurting.
Male postpartum depression is different from the "daddy blues," he said. The
signs of full-blown depression are usually more severe and last longer.
Some of the symptoms of postpartum depression are the same as those for
generalized depression, such as sadness, a sense of worthlessness and a loss of
interest in sex or hobbies.
A rocky relationship with a spouse, a sick or colicky baby, anxiety about
becoming a father and a history of depression can also contribute to the
condition.
Courtenay mentioned one of the best predictors of whether a man will become
depressed is if his spouse is depressed. "Half of all men whose partner has
postpartum depression are depressed themselves," Courtenay said.
Men are also more likely to hide their depression from loved ones, he added.
Sandler's symptoms began not long after his son Asher's birth in June.
"Something didn't feel right," he remembered. "I felt like a lot of loss of
control of my life...a feeling of trappedness came over me and it would not
lighten up. It kept getting worse and worse as the days went on."
Sandler said he would make excuses to get out of the house. "Simple errands to
the store that would maybe last 30 minutes were now lasting an hour," he
recalled.
Sandler's wife Traci, 38, who was recovering from a Caesarean section at the
time, recognized something was wrong almost immediately.
"At first I wanted to slap him across the face," she said. "But he said 'this is
not normal' and he realized he needed help."
When his baby was about 3 weeks old, Rob Sandler went to see a psychologist and
then a psychiatrist.
Sandler credited twice-weekly counseling sessions and a daily dose of an
antidepressant with helping him turn the corner.
Left untreated, mood disorders often worsen, Courtenay said. "If a man doesn't
get effective treatment for his depression, it could have damaging, long-term
consequences for himself, his marriage, his career and his child."
He suggested there are several ways for new fathers to try to prevent postpartum
depression.
Courtenay recommended that men with a history of depression see a mental health
professional before the birth of a child to work through any issues that are
causing stress and anxiety.
Similarly, he told couples to seek marital counseling ahead of time if they're
having trouble communicating.
Financial responsibilities also can fuel pressure in new dads. Courtenay said
couples should evaluate monetary resources before a new baby arrives.
Rob Sandler revealed he felt similar worries as the sole breadwinner of the
family.
He admitted he still gets overwhelmed at times, but now that he's received
treatment he's feeling much better and described the emotional difference as
"night and day."
"Now I see myself wanting to come home earlier and spend time with [the baby],"
Sandler said. "Whereas before I was running from it, now I kind of want to go
back and be part of it."
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