Surrogate pregnancies have been with us for a very long time.
Today, advances in assisted reproductive technology (ART) have made Gestational surrogacy a possibility. This occurs when a woman carries and delivers a child with whom she has no genetic relation. An egg and sperm are fertilized outside of the womb with in vitro fertilization (IVF) and the resulting embryo is transferred to the gestational carrier, who will carry the baby to term on behalf of the intended parents (the ones going home with the baby).
Surrogates are women with humanitarian motives to help another couple who are compassionate and filled with dignity. While a woman who wants to help another couple have a child is certainly a generous one, there are a few specifications to help you decide if she’s the perfect fit.
Your surrogate must be in good health and live in an environment that is free of stress to make the journey as easy and successful as possible for all parties involved.
4 criteria to choose your Surrogate
From compassion to commitment, from age to pregnancy health history, here are a few things to consider when choosing your surrogate:
To create an optimal atmosphere with the highest chances of having a healthy delivery of a baby without complications. Choosing a surrogate between the ages of 21 and 40 years old with an ideal BMI is going to set your pregnancy up for success. This gives you a surrogate that is in good health and is free of the potential risks that can have a negative effect on a developing fetus.
Consider the age-related medical concerns that can accompany an older surrogate, like hypertension or preeclampsia which is common in older women.
Once you’ve found a willing carrier who is absolutely excited about helping you along your journey. It’s important to consider her health history. You want a carrier who has given birth to a child previously without any complications. Take a look at her previous deliveries with documentation in prenatal and delivery records.
A surrogate should be experienced in bearing children. The carrier should not have a history of criminal activity and live a stable life. Choose a woman who is emotionally stable and prepared to bear your child, and then promptly give it to its parents with no reservations. A history that is free from drug use or excessive alcohol use.
You’ll need a woman who demonstrates complete willingness when it comes to allowing the intended parents to make medical choices and be involved in the pregnancy/birthing experience. Find a carrier who is on the same level as you on the issues that are most important to you. It is essential for an overall positive experience to discuss these matters in-depth before agreeing to move forward on the journey.
You’ll also need a surrogate who is willing to take the hormone injections needed for getting pregnant with your child. She should be willing to keep appointments and be on time. She needs to be willing to adhere to the boundaries you’ve set not only for the 9 months in which you will be involved together but also for the life of the child after birth.
Find a carrier who is willing to make concessions and come to the perfect agreement. It will make all the difference in your process.
Love, Love, Love
At the end of the day, this process is a beautiful journey that will help you grow your family. Finding a surrogate with a big heart and capacity for love is important. You should feel that your chosen carrier has a deep desire to help you and your family.
As you extend equal gratitude for one another throughout the process, you will create an atmosphere that is full of love and positive energy. This helps you, this helps her, and this helps your developing child. Though much of this process will involve contracts and certain amounts of business, it’s important to remember that this is a woman who is here to help you fulfill your greatest wishes to have a child.
Find your perfect Match
By carefully considering these few tips, you will find the surrogate of your dreams. Consider health history, age, willingness, and the connection you feel with her. Much of this process is in fact based on connection.
For the rest of the process including the medical and fertility aspect, leave your journey only in the hands of the best medical support system.