Female G-spot is a Real Thing: A Complete Resource
The G-spot, also called the Gräfenberg spot (for German gynecologist Ernst
Gräfenberg), is characterized as an erogenous area of the vagina that, when
stimulated, may lead to strong sexual arousal, powerful orgasms and potential
female ejaculation. It is typically reported to be located 2–3 inches (5.1–7.6
cm) up the front (anterior) vaginal wall between the vaginal opening and the
urethra and is a sensitive area that may be part of the female prostate.
The existence of the G-spot has not been proven; nor has the source of female
ejaculation. Although the G-spot has been studied since the 1940s, disagreement
persists over its existence as a distinct structure, definition and location. A
2009 British study concluded that its existence is unproven and subjective,
based on questionnaires and personal experience. Other studies, using
ultrasound, have found physiological evidence of the G-spot in women who report
having orgasms during vaginal intercourse. It is also hypothesized that the
G-spot is an extension of the clitoris and that this is the cause of orgasms
experienced vaginally.
Sexologists and other researchers are concerned that women may consider
themselves to be dysfunctional if they do not experience G-spot stimulation, and
emphasize that this is not abnormal
The G-spot sometimes seems more complicated than it's worth. To start,
scientists are always debating whether or not it even exists. And even if it
does, it's hard to get a clear answer on exactly where it is, what it does, and
how you'll know you're stimulating it.
Celeste Hirschman and Danielle Harel, Ph.D.s, sex therapists, and co-creators of
the upcoming book Making Love Real tell us the low down on the G-spot: how to
find it and, once you have, what to do with it.
Before they get into the details, though, they clear up one enduring myth: Yes,
the G-spot is a real thing. "It's more of an area than a spot, and sometimes the
location of the most sensitivity can be in different parts of the upper wall of
the vagina depending on the time of month, the height of arousal, and how much
stimulation it has already gotten," admits Hirschman. That might help explain
why it seems like such a unicorn—it's something of a moving target.
Explore on Your Own
If this is your first time exploring your G-spot, Hirschman and Harel suggest
that you use a contoured sex toy designed specifically for that. Lelo's GIGI 2
is one gorgeous option. If you're looking to spend a little less, try the
plastic G-Gasp Delight. Or check out one of these erotic appliance upgrades.
"The harder material gives you the power you need to get enough stimulation,"
Harel explains. Lube the toy up and slide it in you, then tilt it so the head
presses against the front wall of your vagina. "When you hit your G-spot, you'll
know—you'll feel an intense sensation not only inside, but spreading up through
your pelvic area, sending sensations through your center," Hirschman says.
Ask for a Helping Hand
Once you have a good idea of the general area and feeling you're looking for,
ask your man to give you a hand. During foreplay, he can use his index and
middle finger to find your G-spot then make the universal "come here" gesture to
stimulate it, says Harel. "If you like the idea of squirting, this is the most
likely way to do it," she adds. By the way: It might take some cortortionism,
but you can do this solo too. After all, female masturbation has some amazing
perks.
Do the Modified Doggie
During sex, the best position is a modified doggie style, Harel notes. Rather
than being directly behind you, your partner should position his hips slightly
above yours, then push down toward your G-spot as he enters you.
Tweak Missionary
Missionary position doesn't need to be boring! It can also be tweaked to be more
G-spot-friendly, says Hirschman. Have him kneel in front of you (instead of
lying on top of you), and put a pillow under your butt to raise your hips up. As
he thrusts, he can angle his penis slightly upward, so it rubs against the
G-spot.
Try the Leg Glider
One final position that makes stimulating your G-spot during sex easier: Lie on
your side with your legs spread apart. Have your man kneel between your legs. In
this position, he'll have plenty of freedom to angle his thrusts one way or
another. To hit your G-spot, he should aim to put pressure on that front wall.
Two primary methods have been used to define and locate the G-spot as a
sensitive area in the vagina: self-reported levels of arousal during
stimulation, and stimulation of the G-spot leading to female ejaculation.
Ultrasound technology has also been used to identify physiological differences
between women and changes to the G-spot region during sexual activity.
The location of the G-spot is typically reported as being about 50 to 80 mm (2
to 3 in) inside the vagina, on the front wall. For some women, stimulating this
area creates a more intense orgasm than clitoral stimulation. The G-spot area
has been described as needing direct stimulation, such as two fingers pressed
deeply into it. Attempting to stimulate the area through sexual penetration,
especially in the missionary position, is difficult because of the particular
angle of penetration required.
Vagina and clitoris
Women usually need direct clitoral stimulation to orgasm, and G-spot stimulation
may be best achieved by using both manual stimulation and vaginal penetration.
Sex toys are available for G-spot stimulation. One common sex toy is the
specially-designed G-spot vibrator, which is a phallus-like vibrator that has a
curved tip and attempts to make G-spot stimulation easy. G-spot vibrators are
made from the same materials as regular vibrators, ranging from hard plastic,
rubber, silicone, jelly, or any combination of them. The level of vaginal
penetration when using a G-spot vibrator depends on the woman, because women's
physiology is not always the same. The effects of G-spot stimulation when using
the penis or a G-spot vibrator may be enhanced by additionally stimulating other
erogenous zones on a woman's body, such as the clitoris or vulva as a whole.
When using a G-spot vibrator, this may be done by manually stimulating the
clitoris, including by using the vibrator as a clitoral vibrator, or, if the
vibrator is designed for it, by applying it so that it stimulates the head of
the clitoris, the rest of the vulva and the vagina simultaneously.
A 1981 case study reported that stimulation of the anterior vaginal wall made
the area grow by fifty percent and that self-reported levels of arousal/orgasm
were "deeper" when the G-spot was stimulated. Another study, in 1983, examined
eleven women by palpating the entire vagina in a clockwise fashion, and reported
a specific response to stimulation of the anterior vaginal wall in four of the
women, concluding that the area is the G-spot. In a 1990 study, an anonymous
questionnaire was distributed to 2,350 professional women in the United States
and Canada with a subsequent 55% return rate. Of these respondents, 40% reported
having a fluid release (ejaculation) at the moment of orgasm, and 82% of the
women who reported the sensitive area (Gräfenberg spot) also reported
ejaculation with their orgasms. Several variables were associated with this
perceived existence of female ejaculation.
