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Sure Shot Ways To Lift Your Libido
 Cautionary Notes About DHEA Supplements
DHEA (dehydroepiandrosterone) is a natural hormone that is converted into male
and female sex hormones in the body. DHEA is sold as an antiaging supplement
that improves energy, strength, and muscle, plus it increases immunity and burns
fat.
However, the NIH says, "there is no conclusive evidence that DHEA supplements do
any of these things,� and "there is little scientific evidence to support the
use of DHEA as a 'rejuvenating' hormone."
Long-term effects of DHEA supplements have not been studied -- but there are
"early signs that these supplements, even when taken briefly, may have
detrimental effects on the body, including liver damage."
Even if DHEA does rev your libido, it won't help erections, Saigal says. "If the
goal is a better erection, getting more testosterone won't help. I advise using
a pharmaceutical instead. I would say, start with [Viagra, Cialis, or Levitra]
first -- especially since we don't know the long-term effects of DHEA."
Keeping Your Libido Healthy
Pills aren't the only answer. If flagging sexual desire is the problem, "find
something that adds spice," Hutcherson says. "Find something interesting that
stimulates your mind, since the brain is the largest sex organ."
Her libido-boosting suggestions:
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Sleep in the bedroom. Have sex anywhere else -- the den, kitchen, or
laundry room.
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Seize the moment wherever, whenever, it hits.
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Buy something new. New lingerie definitely qualifies.
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Send hot sizzling notes to each other during the day.
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Buy a sex toy. Read an erotic novel together. Watch an erotic video.
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"There are so many things, you can never run out of ideas," Hutcherson
says. "What helps most -- the best aphrodisiac -- is going on a field trip
to an adult store together. Try different things, touch, giggle, have a good
time. You find you can't wait to get home to try them."
Protecting Your Sexual Desire
To keep your libido in prime form, you've got to walk, jog -- do some kind of
aerobic exercise -- daily. Maybe it doesn't sound sexy, but a two-mile walk
every day keeps the blood flowing, Saigal says.
Losing weight (if you're obese) and eating a low-fat diet also helps restore
sexual function, he adds. "You'll feel better about yourself, and your partner
will be more interested in you. You'll also help your heart." And that�s very
sexy.
4. Meditate to increase your Libido
A recent research has been published: "A mindfulness-based group
psychoeducational intervention targeting sexual arousal disorder in women".
Introduction: Despite their widespread prevalence, there are no existing
evidence-based psychological treatments for women with sexual desire and arousal
disorder. Mindfulness, the practice of relaxed wakefulness, is an ancient
eastern practice with roots in Buddhist meditation which has been found to be an
effective component of psychological treatments for numerous psychiatric and
medical illnesses. In recent years, mindfulness has been incorporated into sex
therapy and has been found effective for genital arousal disorder among women
with acquired sexual complaints secondary to gynecologic cancer.
Aim: The aim of this study was to adapt an existing mindfulness-based psychoeducation (PED) to a group format for women with sexual desire/interest
disorder and/or sexual arousal disorders unrelated to cancer.
Methods: Twenty-six women participated in three 90-minute sessions, spaced 2
weeks apart, with four to six other women. Group PED was administered by one
mental health trained provider and one gynecologist with post graduate training
and experience in sexual medicine.
Main outcome measures: Prior to and following the group, women viewed audio
visual erotic stimuli and had both physiological (vaginal pulse amplitude) and
subjective sexual arousal assessed. Additionally, they completed self-report
questionnaires of sexual response, sexual distress, mood, and relationship
satisfaction.
Results: There was a significant beneficial effect of the group PED on sexual
desire and sexual distress. Also, we found a positive effect on self-assessed
genital wetness despite little or no change in actual physiological arousal, and
a marginally significant improvement in subjective and self-reported physical
arousal during an erotic stimulus. A follow-up comparison of women with and
without a sexual abuse history revealed that women with a sexual abuse history
improved significantly more than those without such history on mental sexual
excitement, genital tingling/throbbing, arousal, overall sexual function, sexual
distress, and on negative affect while viewing the erotic film. Moreover, there
was a trend for greater improvement on depression scores among those with a
sexual abuse history.
Conclusion: These data provide preliminary support for a brief, three-session
group psychoeducational intervention for women with sexual desire and arousal
complaints.
Specifically, women with a history of sexual abuse improved more than women
without such a history. Participant feedback indicated that mindfulness was the
most effective component of the treatment, in line with prior findings. However,
future compartmentalization trials are necessary in order to conclude this more
definitively.
5. Learn from Friends
Learning is, of course, highly influential in sexual motivation. We copy the
behaviors of those we respect and admire. We learn to repeat behaviors that are
rewarded (and sexual behavior is rewarding for most) and we learn to discontinue
behaviors that have negative outcomes.
Conditioning is believed to influence sexual motivation. Certain stimuli may
increase sexual arousal. For example, one might become sexually aroused by
candlelight due to the learned association with sexual pre-encounters such as a
romantic, candlelight dinner. It has also been proposed that conditioning
accounts for sexually dysfunctional behaviors and sexual deviance (O'Donohue &
Plaud, 1994). For example, a pedophile (person sexually aroused by children)
might have been accidentally sexually aroused in the presence of a child.
Principles of conditioning indicate he would seek this same combination of
factors in the future in order to achieve the same pleasurable circumstances
again. In her study of sexual motivators, Barbara Leigh (1989) states that fear
of rejection, a learned component, is indeed the reason most often given by
single men for not engaging in sex.
Based upon the results of surveys such as the Kinsey studies (1948; 1953). Women
experienced the same physiological arousal but different subjective arousal.
When women viewed an erotic film produced by women for women, the female
participants showed the same physiologic arousal as they did to male-produced
films, but reported significantly greater sexual arousal, interest and positive
affect. As interpreted by the researchers, the difference was due to how women
interpreted the content of the films. Essentially, this study indicated that
interpretation of the stimuli is of great importance in subjective feelings of
sexual arousal. Cognitions affect sexual arousal in another fashion. According
to Kalat (1996), inhibition of arousal can occur in individuals who believe that
sex is shameful. These individuals experience sexual arousal, but have
difficulties achieving sexual orgasm because of their thoughts.
 6. Remembering memories of hottest sex ever you had
Hottest sex memories could reignite the low libido. Here are few experiences of
women who had the hottest sex ever:
�The best sex I ever had was with a guy I picked up at a wedding last year,
mainly because I was feeling down and needed a one-night stand. But the sex was
so amazing that I kept coming back for nearly a month, even though he was
divorced and had a child and was not at all what I was looking for in a
relationship. I think what made the sex so good was that it was 90 percent
foreplay. Like hours of making out, and massaging, and manual stimulation, and
oral sex and then just enough actual intercourse to make me want to do it all
again. I also think there was something in that he�d been married and had this
ultra tight relationship with a woman before me. I could tell he�d been well
instructed. And that he�d just put a lot of thought and care into how he touched
someone, during a hug or while doing it doggy style. Damn, I wish I could call
him.�
�It sounds cheesy, but some of the best sex I ever had was with my husband right
after our wedding. We had a few hours between our afternoon reception and the
smaller party we hosted later that night at our apartment, and we used that time
to, uh, �consummate and decorate.� There�s nothing like setting your emotions on
overdrive to make the sex super hot (and meaningful).�
�My boyfriend blew my mind just two or three weeks after we started dating. He
had one finger rubbing my vulva and his thumb stroking my anus, sort of in a
grasping motion.
The pleasure I felt, and I�m not exaggerating, brought me to Another level of
consciousness. I don�t necessarily believe in out-of-body experiences but it
felt so amazing that I don�t think I was fully present at the time!�
�I hope I haven�t had the best sex I�ve ever had yet, but two instances stick
out in my mind. Last year on my birthday, my then-boyfriend and I were getting
it on and I began to cry (I know you think this should be illegal) because I
felt so in love with him at that time. Even though we were having issues in our
relationship I felt that we could get through it.
Then there was the first time we saw each other after breaking up officially. It
started with a look, then I kissed him and he kissed back and next thing I knew
we were yanking each others clothes off. It was carnal, lustful, and loving. I
remember being really hot and sweaty because we were generating so much heat
under this huge comforter. He had an issue with coming for some reason so often
times I was knackered before he could get off, but that night � well you get the
point.�
�Back when I was a total ho-bag, I met this unbelievably good-looking British
bass player. He looked like Christian Bale crossed with Don Draper, only more
rough and tumble. It was his last night in town and my friend Ed had been
roadying for his band. He introduced the guy (I don�t even remember his name!)
to me and Ed�s wife. Both she and I just stood there staring stupidly because he
was seriously so good looking it was other-worldly. I eventually regained my
powers of speech and it turned out he was really funny and flirty too. At one
point Ed�s wife stood behind him and mouthed �take him home!� So I did. (Not
that I needed convincing.)
We got to my house, started fooling around and off came the pants. I thought
Brits were generally lacking in that area, but it was the biggest penis I�d ever
seen. I remember looking up at him and saying, �You've got to be kidding.� He
laughed. I think he heard that a lot. So we had amazing sex, and because I knew
he was leaving for London in the morning, there were no expectations and zero
awkwardness. We took the subway into Manhattan the next day and just kept
laughing. Half my face was burned off because of his stubble too. I did not mind
this. It was like a souvenir.
These memories should be used as a trigger to have boost to your libido.
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Dated 24 February 2015
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