Top 10 Hurdles to Ultimate Orgasm
women — about one out of three — have trouble reaching orgasm when having
sex with a partner.
This is even more common for younger women who are just beginning to explore
sexual relationships. Getting to know your own body, identifying preferences and
overcoming roadblocks will make sex more pleasurable and can help you discover
what brings you to orgasm.
your physical being- for e.g. worrying that your
too much or your
breasts are drooping. Guys don’t look at women that critically, mainly
because they’re too busy thinking, “She’s having sex with me!” Once you get that
he’s not noticing any perceived imperfections. If you think your boobs are
saggy, wear a hot bra during sex. If you’re worried your stomach looks flabby,
put on a cute night wear. But sell it! Really deliver it in a sexy way.
"IT" as another ritual: Sex is for reproduction, not recreation- that's what
most of us have been brought up to believe. There is no doubt sex plays an
important role in reproduction, but then that not all where it should end.
Orgasm is about being able to relax and submit to the pleasure. A celebration of
many Distractions: Women are multi-taskers, hats off to them. This
shouldn't creep into your sex life. During sex, if you’re thinking about
folding the laundry, pending work at office, etc it’s going to be
difficult to get swept up into the moment and reach climax.
Overridden by guilt or shame: Women who feel guilt related to sex or
particular sexual activities generally believe that sex (or a specific sex act)
is immoral, sinful or unclean. Social hindrances on the free and open expression
of basic desires contribute to the formation of three distinct aspects of the
human personality. Remember, sexual activities in themselves are morally
neutral. They derive their meaning, and therefore their ethical value, from how
they function within a person’s overall wholeness (Id-Ego-Superego) as a loving
individual. Women who feel good about themselves, however, and who embrace their
sexuality in a healthy way are in a better position to experience heightened
sexual pleasure (over and over and over).
letting Go: Most woman think of sex as a goal-oriented event, with
orgasm as the chief and sole end, leaving a lesser scope for fun and enjoyment.
Go on a Bon voyage to discover true pleasure lying hidden in your
discomfort and soreness: Levels of estrogen, progesterone, and
testosterone present in your body influence state of vaginal health.
estrogen levels prevent increased blood flow from traveling to your pelvis.
The result is the thinning of your vaginal walls, and less lubrication during
sex. Intercourse can range from uncomfortable to extremely painful, and can even
cause spotting or light bleeding. Many women simply cannot feel the desire for
sex because of painful intercourse. Progesterone keeps your libido up.
Testosterone, a male sex hormone, boosts sexual desire and lubricates your
vagina. When these hormones vary, so does your overall desire for sexual
and burnt out- It seems likely that
stress must impact
negatively on the female sexual experience. In a recent survey of 1000 adults,
stress was ranked as the number one detractor from sexual enjoyment (26%) above
other potential detractors such as children, work and boredom. There seems to be
a connection between stress, testosterone levels and female sexual function.
Click here, for more Impact of Stress, Relationship Health and Depression
on Overall Sexual Function.
Missing out on the mood: Unlike men, it is impossible for women to
reach orgasm if they are not in the right mood. Considering that women have a
lot of mood swings, they need to grasp the mood before doing sexual intercourse.
massage, candle-lit room, a good foreplay can set the right mood for orgasm.
Health Issues: There are many underlying health condition or medication
you’re taking that might interfere with your good time. For instance, the
clogged arteries that come with
heart disease can restrict blood flow to the tiny blood vessels in your
diabetes can blunt nerve endings. Hormone-based contraceptives, which lower
testosterone, can also dull sexual sensation while antihistamines often dry up
your natural vaginal lubricants, making sex uncomfortable. Selective serotonin
reuptake inhibitor antidepressants (SSRIs) and meds for anxiety and hypertension
are also notorious for depressing the libido so you’re not even interested in
sex, let alone orgasm.
being Familiar with your Body: You’ve got to be familiar with yourself to
know what turns you on. Sexplore. Discover your body. Touch it. Learn whether a
light touch or a hard touch feels best—and where. Incorporate adult toys.
Nothing is taboo. Tease yourself. Notice where all the erogenous zones are in
your body that you may later guide your lover’s hands or mouth to them.
Consider the above factors which might be making it more difficult for you
to have an orgasm. Concern that you won’t have an orgasm, even though you are
aroused, might repress your sexual response.
- WF Team
Dated 06 September 2011