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Sure Shot Ways To Lift Your Libido
 D. Massage
When you flip her onto her stomach, and turn her "main zones" away from you, you
are saying to her, �I am not just after the �prize,� I want to make you feel
good.� This will allow her to relax and get her juices flowing more than ever. A
good erotic massage will sexualize and wake up new parts of her body, increasing
the scope of her pleasure.
The rules: Don�t put her to sleep. Massages, especially after a hard week�s work
or a heavy night of drinking, can easily slip a woman into sleep mode. The trick
to giving a good erotic massage is to keep it sensuous, which means taking
breaks between touches to lick and kiss her, and involving her whole body.
Stroke her with your whole hand and enjoy her curves while you do this.The
effect of the erotic massage is that it creates occasional deep and delicious
feelings while generating light and tickly feelings as you glide and graze your
hands and fingers over her. These tickly feelings keep the brain and skin active
and awake, while relaxing and arousing her at the same time.
Use a small amount of oil, because using too much oil with cover the gentle
friction of your hands on her skin, and can end up giving an itchy feeling which
isn�t sexy. Be careful where you put oil if you are using condoms, as it breaks
down latex quickly. Use long strokes going down her body, all the way to her
feet.
A good place to end is on her butt. Let her tell you with her writhing when she
is ready for you to go further. Butt massages are the absolute best, and once
you start there, she won�t want you to stop. The easiest way to encourage her
arousal from a bum massage is to include her inner thighs occasionally, and
skate near her anus and vaginal lips, without actually touching them but just
very slightly brushing past them with your fingers. The tease will drive her
wild, and before you know it, she'll be begging for more of you.
How to turn her on from a distance and more...
E. Kissing Her On The Neck
Chicks dig this. Their necks are far more sensitive than yours. This is good
news for guys who aren�t sure what to do to get their girls hot. It is really
easy to turn her on if you kiss her neck. It works like magic.
The rules: Be sensuous and take your time. Use a sexy combination of soft and
firm kisses, and keep the pace on the slower side. Kissing her neck from behind
is almost guaranteed to turn her on, and you know when she turns around to face
you she is ready for more. The back of her neck and shoulders are great places
to start. Progress onto the sides of her neck, and up by her ears, maybe working
your way around to the front, near her jugular.
Small, soft, closed-mouth kisses work well for starters, but should be worked up
to open-mouthed kisses. A warm, moist tongue on her throat (without slobbering
all over her, of course) is the wet feeling that may just lurch her into outer
space. She will probably moan a lot when you do this. Women also love being held
by strong man hands, so use them while you do your thing.
F. Turning Her On Without Touch
The brain is the largest sexual organ in our bodies. If you really understand
this concept, you can use this to your advantage anytime you like. Include
nonphysical moves such as reading her an erotic story, or telling her what you
want to do to her either on the phone, by writing her a note and tucking it into
her pocket, sending a text message, or emailing her. If you can get her wet
before you even touch her, you are doing very, very well.
The rules: Don�t go overboard. Use words and actions that will force her to use
her imagination instead of giving her every detail. Touchless foreplay is a less
obvious arouser because she isn�t going to be moaning into your neck, but it is
just as effective as touching her. Her imagination will run rampant when a sexy
suggestion is put in place, so get her worked up with evocative words.
Women are often complaining about men and all the things you do wrong when it
comes to foreplay. The truth is you guys do so many things right and we love you
for it, so don't be shy to get creative with your foreplay moves. Men and women
are quite different creatures, and love each other in different ways, so it
helps to get tips from a girl's perspective. Now you have six more foreplay
moves to seduce her with. Try them all and drive her wild.
3. Libido boosting supplements
For advice on women's supplements, Hilda Hutcherson, MD, clinical professor of
obstetrics and gynecology at Columbia University Medical Center, and author of
the book Sex and Pleasure: A Woman's Guide to Getting the Sex You Want and Need
and Deserve.
The supplements are generally harmless, she tells WebMD. She has found that
herbal oils and supplements do seem to help some women having trouble with
sexual desire and vaginal dryness. Yet she always advises talking to your doctor
before taking any supplements -- as some have dangerous side effects.
Christopher Saigal, MD, assistant professor of urology at UCLA School of
Medicine, about men's supplements -- mostly for erectile dysfunction (ED). He's
got an open mind about supplements that mimic Viagra, but he's also got definite
opinions.
If you're buying an off-the-shelf supplement, the quality is worth questioning,
Saigal says. "There is so much fraud in this industry," Saigal tells."Go to a
site that evaluates the contents, like ConsumerLab.com. One evaluation of
ginseng showed that half the brands had contaminants like pesticides. So buyer
beware. Look for high-quality products."
Sexual Desire, Supplements�and the Science
Ginseng: There are several types of ginseng, two of which are Siberian ginseng,
which is occasionally used as an aphrodisiac, and red Korean or Asian ginseng,
which is used in Chinese traditional medicine and has slightly more research
behind it, Saigal says.
"Ginseng, like a lot of herbs, is thought to work by helping the body make more
nitric oxide -- as does Viagra," he says. "A couple of good studies showed some
effect from ginseng, so people can look at this as an alternative to Viagra. But
it's not going to be as effective as Viagra or Levitra or Cialis."
Ginseng appears to help women, too, says Hutcherson. "Ginseng gives people
energy and may improve mood, and you need energy and endurance for sex, right?"
Black Cohosh: In the past, black cohosh has been used to treat arthritis and
muscle pain and was traditionally used for �female� complaints. Today, it is
marketed to treat hot flashes, night sweats, vaginal dryness, premenstrual
syndrome, and other menopausal symptoms.
"Black cohosh has estrogen-like properties, and increases blood flow to the
pelvis -- which increases arousal and response to sexual stimulation,"
Hutcherson says. "More blood flow means more lubrication, and that's good for
sex." The National Institutes of Health (NIH) is funding studies of black cohosh
as a treatment for menopausal symptoms.
 Chasteberry (Vitex): Chasteberry is native to the Mediterranean region and
western Asia -- and is approved in Germany for premenstrual and menstrual
problems. It is said to increase sexual desire by boosting the hormone
progesterone and the brain chemical dopamine.
Chasteberry also decreases the brain chemical prolactin that interferes with
sexual desire. "It works for some patients," Hutcherson says.
L-Arginine (Arginine): Arginine is an amino acid the body needs for many
functions, like boosting immunity. The body also uses arginine to produce nitric
oxide -- an effect similar to the way Viagra works. Arginine has been found to
improve blood flow to the penis.
One study showed improvements when L-arginine, glutamate, and yohimbine were
combined. (Yohimbine is FDA approved as a drug therapy for ED, so how much of
the effect was due to arginine is unknown.) Another study showed "significant
improvement in sexual function" when low dose (500 mg three times daily) L-arginine
and pycnogenol were combined -- but not when L-arginine was used alone. Higher
doses, around 5 grams daily, might be necessary for L-arginine to work by
itself.
Arginine is generally safe, although there may be drug interactions --
especially with high blood pressure drugs. In addition, men taking Cialis,
Levitra, or Viagra � or nitroglycerin (nitrates) for chest pain (angina) --
should be cautious as combining them with L-arginine can cause a potentially
serious drop in blood pressure.
"It's something to try. And if it works for those arteries, it could also help
the heart arteries, too. Men with heart disease might benefit most from taking
arginine," says Saigal.
Ginkgo: Ginkgo has been used in traditional Chinese medicine for thousands of
years. Ginkgo leaf extract is used today to boost mental power, help
Alzheimer�s, and treat tinnitus, asthma, fatigue, and sexual dysfunction. Some
studies show that gingko enhances the effects of nitric oxide -- which allows
better blood flow to the penis.
"Ginkgo is one of those herbs that are pretty popular," says Saigal. "The thing
is there's no great data for sexual function on it." Ginkgo is thought to help
with sexual dysfunction related to antidepressant use, he notes. "One study
showed that ginkgo made no difference; the other showed some slight difference.
There may be a large placebo effect, but there have been anecdotal reports that
it helps some people."
Yohimbe: Yohimbe is derived from bark of the yohimbe tree, native to Africa --
and traditionally used as an aphrodisiac. In current times, "this extract has
been shown to be moderately effective in treating ED," says Saigal. "It may
perhaps increase erections and libido, because it has some effect on the brain.
Some studies indicate that yohimbe may help ED in men taking antidepressants as
well as other types of ED, although research in this area is limited. Caution:
Some yohimbe bark extracts may not contain significant amounts of yohimbine, so
they may not have these effects. "There's a buyer-beware issue," Saigal says. "A
lot of supplements use names that sound like yohimbe but are basically
worthless. Look at the content label. Make sure it's from the yohimbe tree."
Also, look for the name of the active ingredient -- yohimbine or yohimbine
hydrochloride.
In some people, yohimbine can cause high blood pressure, stomach upset, anxiety,
or other psychological problems. Use cautiously and under the direction of your
health care provider.
Maca: Maca is a vegetable native to Peru that is traditionally used as an
aphrodisiac, says Saigal. "There have been rat studies, but studies to support
its use are very limited," he says. "But because it's a vegetable, maca won't
hurt you."
Pycnogenol: Pycnogenol is an extract of the bark from French maritime pine. It
is believed that pycnogenol helps protect blood vessels and boost production of
nitric oxide -- similar to L-arginine, yohimbe, ginkgo, and ginseng.
"Some studies show that taking L-arginine and pycnogenol together boosts nitric
oxide production," says Saigal. "Those weren't randomized trials [meaning the
combination wasn�t compared to placebo], but there was an effect." So there
might be some effect in combining the two.
ArginMax: If female patients are interested in herbs, Hutcherson guides them to
ArginMax (a combination of Panax ginseng, L-arginine, ginkgo biloba, damiana,
multivitamins, and minerals).
Two large clinical studies found that ArginMax improved sexual function in
menopausal and other women with low sexual desire, Hutcherson explains.
 Zestra for Women:
Zestra, a blend of botanical oils and extracts, is designed to
increase female sexual desire, arousal, pleasure, and satisfaction when applied
to the female genitalia, says Hutcherson. Zestra�s ingredients include borage
seed oil, evening primrose oil, angelica extract, coleus extract, vitamin C, and
vitamin E.
In a preliminary study, Zestra was shown to increase sexual sensation, arousal,
pleasure, and satisfaction in "normal women" and women with arousal problems.
Zestra also helped with sexual side effects related to antidepressants.
"You rub it on your clitoris, which is supposed to increase blood flow,"
Hutcherson explains. But "I don't know whether it's the Zestra that works or
because they're rubbing the clitoris."
In a study funded by Zestra Laboratories Inc., 217 women were randomized to
either Zestra or a placebo oil. In some aspects, such as sexual desire and
arousal, the Zestra group fared better. In other aspects of the study, there was
no difference between Zestra and placebo. The only side effect mentioned was
mild to moderate genital burning in more women in the Zestra group.
Vitamin E: Vitamin E oil -- when applied to the vagina -- helps improve
lubrication. "It is very effective," Hutcherson says.
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Dated 24 February 2015
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