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Orgasm Triggers for Women and Men
 Orgasm-Inducing
Techniques Men Love
It�s no secret that women have some very specific pleasure points on their body
and hopefully your guy is no stranger to the clit and G-spot. Yet you might be
surprised to know that the male body also has particular trigger spots that�when
stimulated�will send any man over the edge. Orgasm is the release of sexual
tension, and tension is created through gradually increasing and varying touch
and pressure on his passion points. Licking and biting with your mouth, then
adding in heat or cold sensations by sucking on an ice cube or drinking hot tea
will drive him wild.
The P Spot
The male prostate gland, which is located about three-quarters of a finger
length inside his anus and feels sort of like a walnut towards the base of his
penis, is a hotbed of nerve endings. �It�s similar to the female G spot and
gently massaging this area can give him a powerful orgasm.
Your best is to talk to your guy outside of the bedroom before you try to finger
his anus so he doesn't get any unwanted surprises. Try bringing it up during a
romantic dinner by saying you love making love with him and want to experiment
even more. You might say that you heard stimulating his prostate can trigger a
really intense orgasm, and see if he would be down to try it later on. If your
guy isn't comfortable with you using your fingers to gently penetrate the area,
there are other ways to stimulate his prostate. One way to do this is to give
some loving to his perineum, or the smooth strip of skin between his testicles
and anus. Since the prostate is internally located between the base of his penis
and his anus, so touching him on the outside of that area can externally
stimulate the gland. Have him lie on his back with his knees bend and legs
spread apart, and then use your fist to apply even pressure to the area with
quick vibration-like motions.
The F Spot
The frenulum is the spot where the glans meets the shaft on the underside of the
penis just below the head, and the concentration of nerve endings here is
sometimes compared to the female equivalent of the clitoris.
When giving him oral sex, let your tongue slide over that area. With your hands,
stroke it with your thumb while you move your fingers around the shaft. To
slowly build his arousal, go back and forth between stimulating his F spot and
the less sensitive base of his penis.
The Soles Of His Feet
Men have a relatively higher concentration of nerve endings in the soles of
their feet than women do. There is an acupressure point about one-third of the
way down from the third toe, right in front of the arch in the center of the
foot. Nicknamed the �bubbling spring�, pressing on this point may boost blood
flow throughout the body, getting him all hot and bothered.
Start your foreplay by giving him a foot massage. Have a warm towel ready and
then place his feet on a pillow on your lap. Use the warm towel to wipe his feet
and get them warm, and then focus on this point by taking your thumb and gently
rubbing it around this spot as a transition to a more erotic kind of rubdown.
The Thumb
Many guys are heavily conditioned to focus solely on the genitals. If you expand
his capacity to have erotic experiences throughout his entire body, you can open
up a whole other world of possibility for him. The thumb is actually a sexy spot
for a lot of guys.
To suck on a man�s thumb evokes sucking on something else and can help him
connect his mind and body during lovemaking. Start off foreplay by gazing into
his eyes as you kiss his hands, and then suck on his thumb as a promise for
what�s to come.
Gluteal Fold
The crease where the top of his thigh meets his butt is a surefire passion
point. It�s a sensitive area and could be the reason why some people like being
spanked.
How To Make Him Go Wild: Ease into it slowly. Use your hand to stroke him, run
your fingernails over the area, then build up to a gentle slap or when he is
lying on his stomach try kissing a trail down his back, over his buttocks and
then gently nibbling along this fold and flicking it with your tongue before
moving on to his inner thighs.
Sacrum
The sacrum is the triangular bone located at the base of his spine in between
his hips. There are nerves in the sacrum that are linked to the genitals, so
stimulating these nerves can send sensations to his manly parts. In fact, some
studies show that electrical stimulation of these nerves can trigger orgasm.
Have your man lie on his stomach and give him a massage by doing light,
karate-chop type movements along his sacrum. Doing this not only stimulates
those sacral nerves, but also trigger the parasympathetic nervous system which
is key for relaxing, letting go, and having an orgasm.
Nipples
If you�re with a man who enjoys this, start by stroking around the aureole and
gently tweaking the nipple with your fingers. Lick around it and suck on it,
increasing pressure and gently biting it. Nipples can be twisted and pulled to
great effect too. Or try sucking on an ice cube and then sucking on his nipples.
The contraction of his nipples due to the cold can heighten the sensation.
Scrotal Raphe
It�s easy to give his penis all the loving, but don�t leave his balls out in the
cold. The scrotal sack is the loose skin that surrounds the testicles and that�s
what feels good to stimulate. The line that runs in the middle like a seam is
the raphe.
Gently flicking the raphe with your tongue feels great to most men. Let him
guide you on how much pressure he likes because the amount varies depending on
the guy. To get him really hot, sip on very warm tea and then flick your heated
tongue over this sensitive area. He�ll lose himself in the new feelings, and
novelty can make for more powerful orgasms.
The Ear-otic Energizer
The ear is designed to pick up the subtlest sensations, so if this is one way
you want to send your guy skyward, remember that less is truly more, says S�ndor
Gardos, Ph.D., sexologist at Mypleasure.com. Place your lips an inch away from
his ear and release a slow sigh, which will tantalize his nerves without going
overboard. Then take his earlobe between your lips and gently tug. This will
pull at, and indirectly stimulate, the nerve endings inside the ear. "These
nerves are almost never stimulated, so you'll really blow his mind when you do
this," says Gardos. Awakening this new erogenous zone will send sexy shivers
rippling throughout his entire body.
The Very Handy Kiss
If you think kisses on the hand are more innocent than those bestowed on other
parts of his body, you haven't tried this one: Place the tip of your tongue on
the webbed area at the base of his fingers, then slowly slide your way up the
side. This move will give him goose bumps because this area is very sensitive
but, like the nerves of his inner ear, rarely gets much attention, says Olivia
St. Claire, author of 302 Advanced Techniques for Driving a Man Wild in Bed.
Then, to make him completely crazy, take the tip of his finger between your
lips. "It's suggestive of what I could be doing down below," says Fran, 39.
The Roof Raiser
 So
you figure you've explored every inch of his mouth with yours? Truth is, the one
area that's often ignored is the roof of his mouth, which is one of the most
ticklish parts of the body, says Hess. So the next time you're lip-to-lip, flick
your tongue once or twice in an arc along this area (any more might send him
into a fit of giggles). Katrina, 33, has found that this move works wonders on
her husband. "When people kiss, they always go for the tongue," she says. "But
the first time I ran my tongue along the roof of my husband's mouth, he was
like, 'Whoa!' Now I know that if I ever want get a rise out of him, that's what
I need to do."
The Barely-There Kiss
Full-on mouth-to-mouth action isn't the only way to make his toes curl: A light
hint of a kiss is more potent than you'd think, especially when you try it on
delicate areas, such as his face. So gently graze your lips (keeping them as dry
as possible) across his forehead, looping slowly over to his temple and then
down to his mouth. This dry brushing, as Hess calls it, will have a completely
different feel from the usual wet kiss. That's because the face is covered with
nearly invisible fuzz called vellum hairs. A slight, subtle touch will activate
these hairs, inducing sublime shivers.
The sweetness of this kiss will also strengthen your emotional ties to each
other, says Nataly, 31. "It's tender but sexy, and it always makes my husband
smile," she says. Which means that a kiss like this says, "Let's get it on" and
"I love you."
A Naughty Neck Nibble
Few kisses establish an I-want-you-now connection like ones on the neck. To take
the passion level up a notch, gently pull his head back and to the side, which
will expose an extra-sensitive tendon running from the ear to the shoulder, says
St. Claire. Starting at the base of his ear, work your way down the ridge,
randomly alternating between small nibbles and gentle kisses so he won't know
what's coming next. Sheryl, 39, found that just a few well-timed nips add a
devilish streak to the usual neck nuzzling and really get her husband's pulse
racing. "I mix it up: Sometimes I kiss-kiss-bite or kiss-bite-kiss," she says.
"He finds the surprise mix of tenderness and toughness really exciting."
The Tongue Tango
If he thinks he's seen (and felt) it all, show him how wrong he is by using the
underside of your tongue. Its silky texture will feel so sexy on his most
sensitive spots -- namely his nipples, an often ignored erogenous zone on men.
"Although many men are embarrassed to say it -- because it seems like something
only women should like -- they secretly crave to have you pay attention to this
area," says Gardos.
So flick the bottom part of your tongue from side to side across these sweet
spots. Then, as he gets into it, throw his senses for a loop by switching to the
rougher, upper side of your tongue, alternating back and forth. "Nerves tend to
go numb when they receive the same type of stimulation for too long," says
Gardos. But when you switch from one type of texture to another, you'll keep his
senses on maximum alert -- which will keep him begging for more.
The Thigh Rise
If you want to get his mojo rising long before you hit X-rated territory, head
for his inner thigh. Starting right above his knee, plant a light-as-a-feather
kiss there, then work your way up, increasing the pressure of your lips on his
skin the farther you go. That's exactly what Lisa, 36, does to get her husband
primed for passionate lovemaking. "Women typically think men don't like
foreplay, but my husband loves this," she says. "And sometimes I'll prolong the
agony by starting over again down at his knee. He goes crazy with anticipation."
The Hot-and-Cold Caress
This smooch will fire up an entirely new set of nerve endings, and all you need
is a cup of coffee or an iced drink to do it. Take a sip, then press your hot
(or cold) lips to his inner wrist, planting little kisses up the inside of his
arm. "The veins are close to the surface in this area, which makes it especially
receptive to touch," says St. Claire. Plus, you'll be stimulating both
temperature- and pressure-sensitive nerves, creating a whole new dimension of
sensations, says William Cane, author of The Art of Kissing. Liza, 31, stoked
her husband's sex drive with an ice-cold kiss during a picnic one day. "It was
really hot out, so I drank some some ice water and then reached for his wrist,"
she recalls. "He loved it, especially since I almost never use props during
kissing. The creativity was sexy in itself."
The Tummy Tempter
 Between
your man's navel and his nether region lies a strip of hair known as the
"treasure trail," so named because of its sensitivity (not to mention the fact
that it leads right where he's dying for you to go). Want to show him just how
prizeworthy this trail really is? Starting right below his navel, take some
strands between your lips and pull -- just hard enough that he can feel it, but
gently enough that he's not jumping out of his skin. The pinpricks of slight
pain you'll create will send jolts of electricity throughout his lower abdominal
region, and even register below the belt.
"Light hair pulling indirectly activates nerves deep beneath the skin's surface,
which is something straight skin-to-skin contact can't do," explains Gardos.
Plus, the downward direction you're heading in will make your man's imagination
run wild with hot 'n' heavy possibilities.
The Spine Chiller
If your husband enjoys back massages (and c'mon, what guy doesn't?), he'll
really like this no-hands variety. Straddle your husband as he lies on his
stomach, and then press your mouth firmly into the nape of his neck. With your
tongue flexed so it's pointy, probe the grooves on each side of his vertebrae,
slowly working your way down to his tailbone.
"Essentially you're giving him a shiatsu massage using your tongue instead of
your fingers," explains Hess. If massages usually lull him to sleep, don't be
surprised if this one has quite the opposite effect. When you use your lips
instead of your hands, your massage instantly goes from relaxing to racy.
The Hot Hummer
Letting loose a sensual moan while you're putting your mouth to work anywhere on
his body (but sensitive parts in particular, like his inner thigh or the inside
of his arm) not only sounds darn sexy, it can also create a totally new
sensation he'll get addicted to real fast. "Humming causes your mouth to vibrate
in a way that feels similar to sex toys," says Gardos. (If you think only women
enjoy vibrators, here's a news flash: Men like what they do, too.) Plus, varying
the pitch of your voice creates a range of sensations: Lower pitches create
slower vibrations; higher pitches, faster ones. "My husband not only likes the
sensation, but hearing me moan lets him know I'm really into it," says Sheryl.
"And that gets him more turned on."
The Knee Nuzzle
Talk about making him weak in the knees: This area is one of the most underrated
erogenous zones. "The knees are full of nerve endings; that's why people are
often ticklish there," says St. Claire. The backs of the knees are especially
sensitive, since the nerves are close to the surface, she adds. For maximum
sensual impact, swivel your tongue along the crease and then blow on the area.
This puff of air will cause the moisture to evaporate, producing a thrilling
hot-then-cold sensation. Plus, he'll be able to actually feel you breathing,
which will tune his body in to yours and take the intimacy between the two of
you to new heights.
The Double-Lip Lock
Add a sexy twist to your usual smooch by taking just his bottom lip between
yours and sucking on it gently, which will bring more blood to the surface of
his skin, making this area even more sensitive, says Gardos. To get him in on
the act, have him suck on your top lip while you're working on his bottom one;
then switch. "A lot of guys know only two kisses: the lip kiss and the French
kiss," says Cane. "This is something completely different, and since you can
switch roles, it never gets monotonous."
Liza first tried this kiss after reading about it in a romance novel: "It
sounded so sexy that I made a note to try it one night. When I did, I could tell
my husband liked it because he started smiling," she says. "It feels playful and
fun, and it's a real bonding experience."
If both men and women appreciate and adhere to above information and knowledge
to raise their own informed and concerted act to achieve the bliss of sexual
happiness for themselves and their the partners.
Dated 13 April 2015
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