Coping with Unplanned Pregnancy
Despite the availability of various contraceptive options, in some Western countries most pregnancies are unplanned.
There can be a time when a woman is caught off guard about the growth of a
life within her. When the reality can leave her in a confused state of mind.
Besides an unplanned
can cause a number of feelings such as
The impending pregnancy can be overwhelming, but there are some ways to help you
first step on your to-do list after discovering you are pregnant is to visit
a doctor. He/she will be in a better position to inform you all about what
are the issues involved with a pregnancy. Use this change as an opportunity
to improve your health. Habits such as
smoking, and drugs will affect your baby's growth and should all be stopped. Any
medication, prescription or not, should be cleared by your doctor before being
Share the news with someone once you find out you're pregnant. This
can be the father-to-be, your family and friends or a medical professional.
There are also counseling services you can visit. You don't need to go through
emotions by yourself. Remember that it's OK to be angry, sad or confused.
It's better to release these emotions than to keep them inside.
Abstract from the book "Profile of Mood
States and Parental Attitudes in Motherhood: Comparing Women with Planned and
Unplanned Pregnancies" clearly show that,
Women with unplanned pregnancies demonstrated a significantly more disturbed
mood, both in pregnancy and in the first year after the birth. However, at
approximately 2 years after childbirth there was no difference between the two
groups of women in their rejection of the maternal role, and repressive and
punitive maternal attitudes. Consider recording your thoughts and feelings
in a journal to help you define this miraculous (and despite all else, the
process of bearing a child is nothing short of that) chapter in your life. Try
to deal with issues as they arise to gain a sense of control over this
experience—it may not have been planned, but everything you do to deal with it
from this point forward can be.
Decide what you plan to do with this unplanned pregnancy. There
are three options: you choose to be a parent, you terminate the pregnancy or
you plan to have the baby adopted. Ultimately it's your decision, but it's
vital that you're informed about each option.
Execute your decision. Whatever you decide, it needs to be what you
want, not what someone else wants you to do. Whatever option you've chosen, know
that you should feel a different array of emotions and expect a variety of
comments from those around you. This is perfectly normal. Women who go through
planned pregnancy have more or less similar issues to handle, so don't panic.
Plan things Accordingly: Being an expectant mom will change most
aspects of your lifestyle. Planning now for the long-term is essential, and
changing your perspective to accommodate positive results is vital. Take the
time to consider what changes you can make to be a mother while still aiming for
other life goals. For example, you may be able to change your work schedule from
full-time to part-time, or your employer may be open to your telecommuting once
baby is born. A parent, partner, or friend may be able to help with
childcare and lend a hand when you need to rest or take a break after baby is
Educate Yourself: Take out time to make a list of everything you are
unsure of or would like to learn more about. There are
ranging from providing simple information to in-depth online classes. Being as
informed as possible will give you the confidence to enjoy your pregnancy and to
look forward to the challenge of being a parent.
Pregnancy is not the end of your life; it's the miraculous beginning of
Dated 10 October 2011