The attitudes and concerns of seniors over 60 in relation to their sexuality are influenced by
- social conventions
- Your health (and not age)
- Sexuality being narrowly viewed as the sexual act.
Now is the time to think of sex as something that can keep you in shape, both physically and mentally.
The path to satisfying sex as you age is not always smooth. Understanding the problems and finding solution can effectively lead to better sex life.
Hold Positive Body image. wrinkles or gray hair, or visible love handles or cellulite, should not make you feel less attractive. Dress up to impress your partner.
Communicate. Talk to your partner, or to a friend or counselor, about your issues, whether they’re physical or emotional. Explain the anxieties you are feeling, ask for and accept reassurance, and continue the conversation as things come up.
Just “do it.” Sex is just as healthy and necessary as exercise and, just like exercise, it may surprise you with pleasure and satisfaction—even if you weren’t “in the mood.” So, get back into practice. Once you’re back in the habit, you’ll start to feel better and your sex drive will naturally increase.
Increase your activity level. Adding boost to your general level of activity will benefit your sex drive by increasing your energy and sense of well-being.
Let it go. Use your age and experience to be wise and candid with yourself. Let go of your feelings of inadequacy and let yourself enjoy sex as you age. Learn to cope with Psychological changes that may interfere with your ability to connect emotionally with your partner
Experiment. Try sexual positions that you both find comfortable and pleasurable, taking changes into account. For men, if erectile dysfunction is an issue, try sex with the woman on top, as hardness is less important. For women, using lubrication can help.
Expand what sex means. Holding each other, gentle touching, kissing, and sensual massage are all ways to share passionate feelings. Try oral sex or masturbation as fulfilling substitutes to intercourse.
Change your routine. Simple, creative changes can improve your sex life. Change the time of day when you have sex to a time when you have more energy. For example, try being intimate in the morning rather than at the end of a long day.
Foreplay. Because it might take longer for you or your partner to become aroused, take more time to set the stage for romance, such as a romantic dinner or an evening of dancing. Or connect first by extensive touching or kissing.
Be Playful more often. Being playful with your partner is important for a good sex life at any age but can be especially helpful as you age. Tease or tickle your partner—whatever it takes to have fun.
Find ways to optimize your body’s response for sexual experiences now.
For, now is the right time.